I tend to be an optimist; I think people are genuinely good and would not want to inflict pain if aware their choices could hurt others. Unfortunately, we live in a society that unconsciously condones objectification. Social media only intensifies this trend-as does the use of dating apps. Potential partners become two-dimensional and features honed in on. Rarely does one see the person as the gestalt they are or feel their energy (something that happens in seconds in real life).